‘The truest love resigns itself to everything, no matter how life pulls it apart, love makes another start again.
Now when I think of that broken-hearted fall – I’d give my all to have that moment to speak again.
To thank you for chasing a bluer sky – and to kiss again – and say goodbye.’ Kurt Elling
My work as a funeral celebrant is very simple. To assist and support families to honour and farewell a special person in a way that reflects the person, and that supports the family in their grief. A funeral or memorial service is a celebration of a precious life, an acknowledgement of their absence, and a space to grieve and be supported.
I assist families to create funerals that are personal, affordable and authentic. I see my role as a compassionate organiser, a listener, a person to make things happen when it seems too difficult to do anything, and a celebrant who gives shape to the event, and speaks for and with the family, and perhaps even the deceased person too.
Some gatherings are high on colour, laughter and stories. Others are extremely sombre and serious. I am able to assist you to create a farewell that reflects the life and death of your loved one, and your own wishes and needs. I can meet with you at short notice, offer some resources to assist you in planning the funeral, and gather stories and information about your loved one’s life and times.
I have travelled widely and have been studying cultural practices around death and funerals. In 2013, I began offering support to dying people and their families in a role often called ‘end of life support/death doula’. The role of officiating at funerals comes very naturally to me within the realm of these experiences.
I strongly support the growing movement of in-home death care, natural burial, green funerals, and family-led funerals. As well as being more sustainable, personal and meaningful, these are so much more affordable. Simple measures such as using a cardboard or bamboo casket, and decorating it with family and friends, can bring costs down and meaning up.