As you birth the child you also birth the mother, sung into being by your circle of women, sung down the lines of your ancestry by the grandmothers. You are honoured for your willingness to open to new life…
It’s so common to hear of ‘baby showers’ where women gather to excitedly celebrate the imminent arrival of a new baby; gifts for the baby are given, and the mother-to-be is often regaled with tales from the frontlines of birth. What is often forgotten in these modern rites is that it is this vessel of life that should be celebrated! The precious mother to be must gather her courage to open to birth, to change her entire world, yet again. She must mark these last days of pregnancy always waiting, often questioning, and must sit with many huge feelings.
The blessingway is a ritual and celebration that harks back to earlier days, when the special and almost magical state of pregnancy was revered. Here before us is a woman growing a new life! Here is a woman who is putting aside many obstacles and fears to nurture her lineage; she is an image of fecundity, health, selflessness, of life itself!
Blessingways are special because they honour the mother-to-be. They also honour her circle of women, and the focus is on sharing positive messages around birth and the woman’s ability to transform as a mother; whether for the first time or as yet another iteration of her maternal self.
The format can vary according to the woman’s culture, personality and spiritual background, her personal circumstances and so on, but generally it involves:
- The woman’s close friends and family helping to decorate a comfortable space in a beautiful way
- Her circle of friends joining her in the space, bringing a plate of delicious food to share
- Sitting in circle and offering blessings, either reading them out loud, or placing them in the center with a bead or candle
- Pampering the mother by tending to her, massaging her or waiting upon her; making her feel amazing
- Other ceremonies may include applying henna to the woman’s belly, making a necklace of the beads her friends have bought, or other rituals that hold meaning for the mother
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